is it true that a single will be more committed? as an employer would you choose to employ a single, a married candidate with no kids or one with kids if salary/calibre/experience were negligible?

i actually left this in draft for more than a week so it's not true that a single is more committed haha. but anyway, i had this thought because keromyn asked me, and i shared with him my experience of working with 3 married colleagues. colleague A who's my age has 2 kids aged 2 and 4. she leaves work on the dot to fetch the kids every day. she often takes urgent leave cos her kids fall sick often. colleague B who's about 13 years older than me also 2 kids but her kids are in primary school already. she sometimes work overtime but if her husband isnt in singapore she has to leave work on the dot to pack food for her kids. both do not have after-work activities except maybe on friday nights. stays at home on weekend. on the other hand, colleague C just got married last year, no kids, still rather yolo, goes out after work to meet friends/dinner/drink frequently.

me. single. OTs all the time, replies emails at insane hours, writes at insane hours too (it's 12.57am btw), but still finds time to mps/gym/meet friends/run errands/tuition/church. is it a time thing? or a priority thing or a commitment thing? hmm. even if i were attached i probably still do all of the above? i wont be happy if my other half restricts me to do stuff. but with kids would be a different thing i guess. priority should be the kids. i'll probably give up tuition first, then mps, then gym in that order? or maybe i would have to give up all hahhaha.

and yes.

even my anti virus is being relatable. commitment haha. so what exactly would induce one to commit? passion? money? mood? i dunno either. ive committed to teaching kids for at least 7 years now, and to the community for 3 years (though i did take a hiatus to get away from toxic people). is it cos im single? tbh all my so-called activities take up a lot of time too. i barely sleep 8h (okay but that's a habit also) my only rest day is sunday (after ss) but im not sure if im happy. i do know im overworked though. but then again i have a workaholic personality and an ocd personality, i cant stand it if i see that there's unread email so i will go and click my inbox to read and reply. unless it's not impt then i'll unread it and leave it to the next day to reply when im in the office. am i being committed? hmm. not like i'll earn more for being more efficient and clearing more work. and it's not like cos i have no kids to take care of too. what do you think?

sidenote: a lot of things have been happening in the office but its hard to share these stuff with someone. :/ just gonna keep it in til it's the right time i guess